Our dining area with DIY African wax print wall art

Our dining area with DIY African wax print wall art

 

I’m alive.

Not writing on this blog for more than a month feels like forever in internet years.

I know you’ve been looking for me. To readers who care and emailed to ask if I stopped blogging: I’m still here. I did not leave.

This space will not disappear. It’s my baby. It’s my life. It’s my freedom. It’s another proof that dreams do happen.

I’m still here. I’m still traveling. But sometimes, I have to get away from it all to remember why I started doing this. And I remember: I don’t want to be tied to a desk and I want the freedom to only do things that make me happy.

Traveling. Reading books. Watching movies. Learning new skills/stuff. Improving my German. Throwing dinner parties. Spending time with people I love. Cooking delicious food. Obsessing over beautiful furniture and interior design. Dancing like I have all the time in the world.

And sometimes blogging ties me to a desk. Answering emails, fixing technical problems, a lot of admin stuff I hate to do etc. It’s funny because I probably spend 5% of my time blogging and 95% maintaining stuff behind the scenes. Okay, that’s not funny. And that’s not always fun.

This is why I needed to step away and reassess my life and how I spend my time. Because the past months I feel like I am prioritizing things that are generally useless and not bringing me anything good. I also think I spend too much time on social media. Don’t get me wrong, I love social media and interacting with you guys there but I think I spend too much time updating my Facebook, Instagram or Twitter and not so much updating this blog itself. Is that bad? Probably not. But I would actually prefer to update this blog more.

But then another thing hits me: writer’s block. I have all this stories in my head but when I sit down to write them, I couldn’t write a single word. I don’t know how to start. It’s midnight and I am furiously typing because I suddenly felt the impulse to just start writing. I have this weird fear that if I don’t write anything RIGHT NOW then the hours will roll into days, the days into weeks and the weeks into months.

It has happened already. Five weeks have passed since my last post here. That scares me. It could easily roll into two months anytime soon.

And so here I am trying to live out the confusions until they become clear.

Part of the confusion is the fact that I am a very well-rounded person who has many interests in life besides travel.

I am a bon vivant. A postmodern polymath. Call me pretentious for saying so I don’t care. I believe it anyway and that’s all that matters.

For instance, I am currently furnishing and decorating our first ever apartment that we have lived in for more than 6 months in the last 5 years. I have always been interested in interior design but I didn’t know I would be so obsessed with it until I had to actually furnish our entire apartment. These days I buy more vases than shoes. I spend too much time on Pinterest searching for DIY ideas.

I am also currently obsessed with food and cooking and throwing dinners/BBQs with friends. I just finished watching the latest season of Master Chef and I want to be a great cook like those home cooks in the show. My cooking style is ill-cook-whats-in-the-fridge which means I always come up with something new. Sometimes it’s good and sometimes it’s meh like this avocado-lime cheesecake that crumbled because I didn’t put enough coconut oil.

I want to blog about these things because they excite me and they make me really happy.

I don’t always want to talk about travel. It sometimes makes me sick of it. When all you do is travel, write about travel and consume travel content like I do (or most travel bloggers do), I think you will get sick of it too. It’s a different thing though when you just start falling in love with travel. You want everything to be travel travel TRAVEL! I’ve been there myself. Most of you reading this don’t travel as much as I do so I hope you’re not sick of reading about my travels!

Anyway. I feel like I can’t talk about all these obsessions here because I have such a strong brand about European travel and doing so would drive readers away. I don’t know. Would that drive you away? What do you think about reading such content on this blog?

Sometimes I think I should just write about stuff I want to write about. This is my freaking blog anyway and I have all the editorial freedom to choose what I write about. And it’s my life. I want to talk about my life here. Every exciting and not so exciting bits of it. But the more new readers I get every month, the more pressure I feel about writing only stuff about European travel. Because isn’t that what most of you came here for? To get ideas about your dreams of traveling to Europe?

Oh the irony of having an audience of almost 40,000 a month and not writing about other things I would love to write about.

Besides travel, I am currently obsessed with interior design, food and cooking, language learning, style and learning new skills/stuff. But can I combine them all here? Or should I start another blog instead? Is that what they call a lifestyle blog? Or is it something like personal development blog? Does it matter?

These things simmer in my head. They paralyzed me.

And so the hours rolled into days, the days into weeks and the weeks into a month. I allowed it. I wanted to live a normal life without blogging.

I traveled to Kosice, Slovakia, a new city and a new country for me. I met my friends from all over Europe and had an Erasmus reunion in Warsaw. I traveled to Italy twice. I finished reading In One Person by John Irving, Could Atlas by David Mitchell and Fight Club by Chuck Palahniuk. I felt so inspired and happy to be reading books again.

I watched a lot of movies and finally finished watching the last season of Modern Family. I am currently watching the latest seasons of Project Runway and America’s Next Top Model. Guilty pleasures! I am still looking for other interior design shows besides HGTV’s Design Star. Do you know any?

I finished decorating my office/guest room. I have thrown BBQs on our balcony, a dozen dinner parties and hosted a number of friends visiting from the Philippines, Lebanon, Sweden, Belgium, Spain and Germany. They came to see me in this random German city I lived in. I love my friends.

Most importantly, I spent a lot of time with the man who allows me to do all these crazy things.

And in between juggling all my current obsessions and spending time with people I love, I realize what I needed to do and what I needed to focus on.

I need to keep doing things that make me happy.

You are supposed to do only what you want to do. The world is vast and full of possibilities. Follow your bliss.

I’m alive.

I’m happy. And I’m back!

DJ Yabis is the poster boy of Dream Euro Trip and a modern day renaissance man. Originally from the Philippines, he loves throwing dinner parties and stalking rock stars in music festivals. Subscribe or follow his adventures LIVE on Facebook or Instagram. Learn how to plan your own eurotrip.

What do YOU think?

14 Responses to “You live out the confusions until they become clear” Subscribe

  1. Fashion Girl | Fashion Travel Accessories April 12, 2015 at 10:14 PM #

    Hi DJ,

    I can relate to your confusion 🙂 When I started blogging last year, I wasn’t sure whether to just focus about travel or some other things as well because I don’t travel full-time. I have been traveling slow, once or twice a year. I started traveling slow in 2004, 2006, 2008, 2011, 2014 and I will continue to travel slow.

    I enjoy incorporating travel with style hence I created Fashion Travel Accessories last year (2014), as I also get to blog about Fashion tips, what to wear, my daily fashion inspiration, as well as traveling, hotels, apartments and then I realised that I have so many interest in life.

    I also love decorating my apartment, lifestyle development, learning new things like languages, new career and health.

    I suggest you should just write about anything that tickles your fancy. Create a new category in relation to a new topic you’re writing about in this blog so your readers or new readers won’t get confused. Perhaps a Lifestyle, Decor and Cooking categories? Maybe add Decor and Cooking as children under the Lifestyle category.

    Just my thoughts!

    Oh, I think people will read or follow your blog anyway regardless of the type of content you write. If they like you as a person, they will definitely follow you. I just found out about your blog after receiving a comment from you in one of my Instagram photos and I actually quite enjoy your personality. So whatever it is you like to share in your blog, I think i’d definitely be interested to read it. 🙂

    Have fun 🙂

    Marj xoxo from: Fashion Travel AccessoriesFashion Travel | Fashion Girl

  2. Jamie November 11, 2014 at 11:51 PM #

    Taking a step back from life can help bring everything into perspective. Is that not what traveling is about? It lets you take a step back and see how other people are happy with what they have.

    Although traveling too much can actually be sicken at times, when it becomes your job and you can’t enjoy the moments.

    A really honest post, got to respect that.

    • DJ Yabis November 12, 2014 at 2:09 AM #

      Yeah if it’s too much I don’t enjoy it anymore. That’s why I don’t do round the world trips. I don’t think it’s fun at all.

      Thanks for joining the conversation.

  3. Victoria@ The British Berliner November 3, 2014 at 5:24 PM #

    Hi DJ Yabis! Thanks for this post. I’ve just started following you so I don’t know you really however, the reason that I started to follow your blog was not because you travel but because of YOU! I Iiked your bubbly voice and your personality. I think you’re stylish and funny all at the same time LOL!

    It’s perfectly alright to feel the blues after all, we’re human. In fact, it’s good to let your readers read some of your thoughts. Yes, you’re living “the dream” but the dream has a price and that goes quite well with your blog. It’s your blog. Write want you want, how you want. I think readers prefer rounded people rather than just a guide book, otherwise they’d buy the guide book!

    My blog has just turned 1 year old (Yay!) and before I started it, I thought hard and long about what my niche would be. I call it a lifestyle travel blog. My lifestyle!

    Good Luck. 🙂

  4. Monica November 1, 2014 at 10:37 PM #

    That’s a very truthful account. I, too have a blog and would have moments of total abandonment just to LIVE my
    Life. You know?

  5. RC October 30, 2014 at 9:50 PM #

    Hi Dj,

    You are correct most of us reader don’t travel that much as you do, and i think that people you got the chance of traveling to many places are the luckiest of all. But when it comes to myself i found out there are differences when you traveling for business or work compare to travel for pleasure. All i got to say is that what you do is your freedom so be happy in every little things you do. Follow your bliss.

    • DJ Yabis October 31, 2014 at 8:32 PM #

      Thanks for chiming in. There is definitely a difference. I like it more for pleasure of course 😀

  6. Lillie October 22, 2014 at 9:15 AM #

    Thanks for this honest post! I really encourage you to write about whatever excites you on your blog. It doesn’t need to be literal travel. Cooking is a form of taste-bud travel! 🙂

    • DJ Yabis October 31, 2014 at 8:34 PM #

      True. Doing it now 😀

  7. nina October 20, 2014 at 9:14 PM #

    The thing about niche blogging is, you get into it with so much passion (and near obsession) with your interest/hobby. That’s all you can talk about, and it excites you very much. But as time pass, you grow and you discover new things that captures your interest, and eventually become a new obsession. It’s natural — people change, and there’s nothing wrong with that.

    As you said, it’s hard to start writing about this new thing without turning off people who came to your blog because of your first passion. Starting a new site with your new obsession would be good, but maybe start with something generic, as to not pigeonhole yourself later on. No need to label it, just do and write what feels right 🙂

    • DJ Yabis October 31, 2014 at 8:36 PM #

      Thanks Nina. Yeah I have figured out the confusions now and I’ll just do what I love to do and not think about anyone else. Sometimes I get so focused on what my readers want to read that I realized they probably just want me to be me.

  8. Ezio October 20, 2014 at 6:53 PM #

    I loved this post and this is not like a comment you post to say: “Oh nice, loved it, cool” You wrote what I thought this summer.
    The blog, the social life, the trips and the TRAVEL idea, all these stuff made me think I had enough (and I know it’s been less then 2 years doing it, but i don’t know it was too much).. For these reason this summer I did nothing (even if being in Puglia is not Nothing), but I stopped a little bit, no updates, personal life and not sharing it..
    I had the same problems, cauz travel was not the only thing I like and I want to share all the stuff about the food, the lifestyle I love… And you know what.. I’m doing it cauz the blog it’s my house, it’s the place where I want to be… think about having a vase that you don’t like more? Would you keep it or change it? I changed it.. 😀
    It was great to see you again in Rimini… EzioMrLifestyle (All the best)

    • DJ Yabis October 20, 2014 at 7:36 PM #

      Right? I’m so ADHD and my interests always change and I feel like I couldn’t talk about them here but I want to (it’s our home!) so I probably will starting NOW. Good to know I’m not the only one.

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